Active Interest

How to complete Active Interest

Most people, especially when nervous, treat a date as an audition and talk too much. This flips it: you spend the evening genuinely curious about who they are, which ironically makes you the more memorable one.

1. Ask open questions that can't be answered in one word
2. When they say something, follow that thread instead of jumping to your own related story
3. Dig past facts into the why: what they care about, not just what they do
4. Let small silences sit instead of rushing to fill them

Tips

• Aim for them talking more than you, but don't turn it into a rapid-fire interview
• Mirror back something they said earlier to show you were actually listening

What counts as done

Afterward you could describe their values and what matters to them, and they did most of the talking.